Saturday, November 25, 2006

"It's only when you grow up, and step back from him, or leave him for your own career and your own home ...

... it's only then that you can measure his greatness and fully appreciate it. Pride reinforces love." ~ Margaret Truman

Were my father still alive, today would have been his 72nd birthday. My mother would have made his favorite meatloaf and had his favorite angel food cake with mocha frosting for dessert. Chances are good that we would have all gathered at their home in Canterbury on Thanksgiving Day to celebrate his birthday rather than wait until today as that always seemed to happen with his birthday being so close to the holiday. And that would have been okay because he didn't make a big deal out of birthdays - he had that "just another day" attitude like so many men seem to have even if inside they're secretly happy to have the extra attention.

Growing up, I didn't really appreciate my father (which is something that I'm sure I was not alone in doing) but once I got out on my own I was better able to understand that he actually knew what he was talking about most of the time! Not all of the time mind you but probably 98.99% of it. However, like the quote says, you just don't know that until you grow up and take a few steps back to better assess the situation.

Despite my stubborn and argumentative nature, I was always proud of my father not only for his military career but for the type of man that he was. If he said it - he meant it and if he did it - he did it right. I wish I had appreciated him more as a kid but sadly it's one of those "hindsight 20/20" things that country singers like to warble about.

Happy birthday, Dad, and wherever you may be I hope they've got meatloaf and angel foodcake with mocha frosting - though I'm sure it would be nowhere near as good as Mom's!

Dad & I - August 17, 1991


  1. I still say your Dad was pretty hot!! Your post reminds me of a certain one of those country songs you mentioned. "The Greatest Man I Never Knew" by Reba McEntire. You were just one of those lucky ones that got to know him and appreciate him before he passed on.

  2. Nice post, Linda. Heartwarming and so very TRUE. I'm sure your dad knows just how you really felt about him, and is smiling upon you now. He'd be proud of the person you are today.


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