Friday, April 13, 2007

Perspective

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I have had pretty much nothing to say for the past two days which makes it rather hard to write a post that anyone is going to find interesting to read - or that I am going to find interesting to write. As my friend Paula told me last night when we spoke on the phone, I was sounding rather "Eeyore-ish" and she is right, I was and I am. Believe it or not, I prefer not to inflict that "lost my tail again while there's a rain cloud hanging over my head" feeling on anyone else so I wasn't going to write anything BUT ...

I'd like you to read something written by someone else because it is moving, because it is heart-wrenching, and because it is something that a lot of us may have to go through sooner or later in this life - though not all in the same manner.

Please go read this post at Dayngrous Discourse and then come back here for the rest of the story ...

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A short time after that posting, Dayngr let her mother go and I have no doubt that it was one of the hardest things that she ever had to do. I could barely read the post leading up to this event because of the tears in my eyes and the lump in my throat due to what I felt for this woman that I have never met but whom I have the utmost respect for.

I received an email from Dayngr in Las Vegas this morning and what she told me was:

"My mom expressed her wishes this morning first to her doctor, then to her nurse (in the doctor's presence) and to me. Her husband and I both had an opportunity to spend time with her and reassure her, comfort her, and let her know we supported her decision. We told her we loved her and that we would be ok so she could let go. She was extubated, given a morphine drip, and taken off her medications.

I wanted her to have dignity in death. When the time came, she closed her eyes and went to sleep. It was so peaceful and serene and calming and everything I wished for her and more.

Linda, when she passed the skies opened up here in sunny LV and the dark clouds rolled in and it poured rain. Unimaginable! All I could think was, we're not the only ones crying."

Certainly makes my problems and troubles seem so very, very small in significance. My heart goes out to this wonderful woman not only for her loss but for her bravery in facing a very painful decision to let her beloved mother go. If you get the chance, please drop Danygr a friendly word or two for it's at times like these that we need those words the most.

5 comments:

  1. Thanks for sharing this Linda. Having been with my own Mum when she passed I feel for Dayngr.

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  2. A moving post if there ever was one! The emotions are too great to even try to comment on. May God be with Dayngr.

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  3. This was a lovely post indeed, you are so right it does put things into perspective.

    Thanks for posting this.

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  4. ditto what Claire said..

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  5. I wanted to take a moment to thank you for your kind words of support. I'll never forget everyone who took the time to help me through the loss of my mother.

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