Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Decisions, Decisions ...

For the last week or so I've been sitting on the fence of whether to go or not go to Jamie's upcoming graduation from the Florida Youth Challenge Academy on June 12th down in Orange Park, Florida.  With Amanda's graduation from Norwich Free Academy only six days later on the 18th, there are some definite time constraints to consider but I also knew that I wanted to try to spend some time with Jamie after her graduation if possible.  It will be a year in June since I've seen her and I've really missed her even though I know she's doing something that will point her life in the right direction.

I was finally able to get her father to agree to let me have her for two days after the graduation ceremony though he was reluctant at first.  Whereas I understand that once she graduates from the Academy she still has certain obligations of the program to fulfill, I have also spoken to her cadre and know that it would be okay for her to spend time with me.  As a matter of fact, it would be okay for her to come up to Connecticut and spend some time here as long as she kept in touch with her mentor but for now that's not going to happen and because it isn't, I wanted some time with her in Florida. 

I'm afraid I got a bit overly emotional when speaking to her father about it initially when he said that he didn't think it would be a good idea but like I told him, it didn't seem to make much sense for me to go all the way to Florida to see her graduate and then turn around and come home.  His response was that I could spend time with her along with he and her step-mom but truly, I don't want to spend time with them - I want to spend time with Jamie.  She's my daughter, I'm not an evil person, and there's no good reason for him not to trust me with her for a couple of days. 

Thankfully he rethought it and decided that it would be okay for me to have her on Saturday and Sunday night and I can return her to Tampa on Monday before I head back to Connecticut.  It's not as much time as I would have liked but I know she's got a job lined up at the local McDonald's to hold her over until she either goes into the service or decides what else she wants to do with her life and I don't want to mess up that opportunity for her.  Still, you would think that a concession or two could be made considering the distance I am traveling to see her.

Anyhow, with all that said, now I have to try to hammer out the details including how I'm getting there, how I'm getting back, and where I want to go while I'm there.  I have vacation time so getting the time off of work shouldn't be a big problem (I know that my supervisor will do all he can to make sure I can be there for my daughter's graduation) but I don't want to use too much of that time if I can help it.  Right now I am leaning towards taking Amtrak down to Jacksonville on the Friday before Jamie's graduation, getting a rental car and driving directly to the ceremony, and after that Jamie and I can head down the coast or other points before I bring her back to Tampa on Monday. I've got a couple ideas of places I'd like to go and maybe - if I'm lucky - people I'd like to meet.

I'm thinking that I'll leave out of Tampa after I drop Jamie off but the biggest decision there is whether to take the train back or to fly back; I'm going to have to run some more numbers and see what would work out best time-wise.  As much as I would love to take the train back, too, there's a 6-hour layover in Washington D.C. that I can't seem to schedule around that wouldn't get me back to Connecticut until 5:30 on Wednesday morning.  The other connections are just way too close and I suspect it's not a good idea to book trains too close together just in case something goes wrong and I'm late for the next leg of my trip.  I don't mind flying but I'm just not sure I want to though it would save me a lot of time.  Perhaps Southwest will have a great sale sometime in the near future that will help me make up my mind!

Anyhow, that's how things stand currently.  I've been trying to figure out where the train station is in relation to rental car places and the cost of hotels in the places that I'd like to go and all of the other logistics of the trip but at least I know that my mind is made up TO go.  It's Jamie's graduation after all and it wouldn't be right not to be there if there's any way possible that I can be.  I just wish it were a little easier.


  1. I'm glad you're going and I'm also glad numb-nuts isn't going to stand in your way. After figuring out all the logistics, I know you'll have a great adventure, as usual....

  2. Oh, he sounds like a real piece of work, this one. Not trusting you with your own daughter? Some people really make me nuts.

    So you're coming by the Swamp! Right? =0)

    Shall I ask MotherDear to make Lasagna? Actually, she's been wanting to anyway. We never do Mexican. Sorry!

    Big hugs xo

  3. Anonymous6:50 AM EDT

    This post makes me very happy. I'm glad you're going. Please send Jamie our Congrats!

  4. It's all about CONTROL. What an idiot. Glad you are rid of him!

    You'll figure out the logistics, just enjoy this time with your daughter. And take lots of photos (like you wouldn't?!).

    Big hugs and congrats to Jamie...

  5. You'll make this work Linda. I've no doubt. I'm glad you can spend some time with Jaime too. It's going to be just fine. I'll not weigh in on the ex since everyone else already did.

    Have a terrific day. Big hug. :)

  6. I'm so glad you are going. You'll figure everything out, and it'll be a great time.

  7. WTF is wrong with the man????

    I'm glad you're getting to spend time with Jamie and I'm sending Reiki to the travel situation for it all to fall into place - I'm sure it will. x

  8. I'm so glad you've decided to go and that your ex is allowing you time with your daughter. The most important thing is to be there for a day that is very special to her. I'm sure you'll have everything sorted out soon and you'll then start counting the hours until you see her again:-) xoxo

  9. I am sorry it is so complicated, but I am happy you are going to see Jamie graduate and spend time with her. You are a wonderful mother and role model on the importance of family for her.

  10. Hope it all goes well. You desearve a bit of a break. I think you will be glad you decided to go.

  11. You should definitely fly to save some time (if financialy possible). Oh travel planning is so much fun. And you'll stop by the swamp? There better be photos! :)

  12. Sorry that I've been MIA and for what you're going through. Jamie is your daughter too after all and you deserve to spend time with her to celebrate her graduation.

    If you need a place to stay, just let me know. I'm close to Tampa and the airport.

  13. too bad sandy isn't still here too, when she is here she is only a couple of miles from me.

    i am sure you will work out all the details and we are really looking forward to seeing you.

    smiles, bee

  14. You are going to have such a good time, Duchess Linda of Norwich-Upon-Thames. I am happy for you.

    catching up a bit here...yet another crazy week and too tired at night to go back to the ol' desktop and blog


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