I think I inadvertently ended up turning a favorite song of mine by the British group 10cc into this week's prompt for Take This Tune after Jamie had left a comment on my post about taking Amanda down to New York City last Saturday so that she could meet a favorite artist and spending 5-1/2 hours waiting for that to happen. Jamie had said that I was a good mom and I guess I responded back that it sort of fell under the category of "the things we do for love" rather like in the song - though truth be told, the song is about romantic love and not parental love but when it comes down to love it seems like sometimes we all end up doing things that we might not do otherwise.
I've heard from my mom on more than one occasion that Amanda is spoiled and it's not really something that I can argue about as yes, she is spoiled (though like all spoiled kids, she really doesn't think she is). I guess I'm not really very good at saying no when there's something that Amanda really wants to do but I'd like to think that it's more an act of love than just giving into her wants.
I can see where taking her to concerts or driving down to Baltimore a couple of times to meet a favorite illustrator and attend the funeral of a really, really dead author or hanging out with zombies in New Jersey or waiting around for 5-1/2 hours for her to meet another favorite illustrator or driving up to Massachusetts so that she can hang out with her brain-twin Sami or a myriad of other things might be considered spoiling her but that isn't what I've been trying to do.
I guess it could be thought that what I'm trying to do is make up for the fact that her father hasn't really paid any attention to her at all over the years or that I'm trying to relive my teenage years through hers but I don't think I'm doing either of those things either. I think what I'm really trying to do is give her some good memories to take with her into her later years - memories where she isn't thinking "wow, my mom never did anything with me" or "wow, my mom never understood what was important to me".
Or maybe what I'm really hoping is that someday when I'm old and infirm (in another five years or so!) that Amanda will remember all of things that I did for her because I loved her and she'll want to do a few for me because she loves me. We've had our rough moments, don't for a minute think that we haven't, but I'm hoping the things I've done for love haven't just spoiled her but they've made her appreciate the opportunities that she's had.
That's the plan at least - time will see if it works!