To give you some additional background on what this blog is “supposed” to be about ... once upon a time, in the early 1980's, after four years of marriage and one child my first husband decided that there were too many single women in the world for him to deal with the responsibilities of being a husband and father and thus began my first journey in the Land of Single Parenthood. Luckily I was young and possessed the energy, eternal optimism, and resiliency of said youth. It was also at this time that I took my first job in emergency dispatching for the City of Stockton Police Department in Stockton, California. This was when I first learned to juggle a stressful career with being a single Mom.
Fast forward to the early 90's when I moved back to Connecticut to be closer to family and where I eventually became one of the first civilian dispatchers at the Norwich Police Department while still raising my son on my own. Shortly after that, I married my cousin's brother-in-law and heaved a sigh of relief that I was no longer going to be the only adult responsible for the raising of my then 10-year old son. Soon Michael had two sisters, Amanda and Jamie, and I took a brief respite from dispatching to be a Navy wife and stay-at-home mom.
To make a long story short, the marriage lasted ten years before we parted more or less amicably and I granted my 'ex' primary physical custody of the girls in order to avoid a long, nasty, drawn-out court battle. I had been dispatching back at Norwich PD since 1997 and also learned how to deal blackjack and was working part-time at the Mohegan Sun. As their Dad had a "normal" schedule compared to mine it seemed the ideal situation that I took the girls every week on my days off and they lived the rest of the time in Plainfield with dear old Dad and several cats.
Everyone was happy, give or take the usual fall-out from a divorce, until the ex-husband ventured over to eHarmony.com and met the love of his life (see? it does work for some people) - who happened to live in Kentucky. Kentucky?!? With nary a thought for my feelings or those of his daughters, he married after a whirlwind long-distance courtship and packed everyone off to Louisville to live with his new wife and her two sons.
Now everyone was definitely NOT happy! I missed the girls (truth be told, I was bereft) and the girls missed me - especially my oldest who was entering that explosive and volatile pre-teen age. Occasional visits back to Connecticut during Christmas and other school breaks just wasn’t doing it for Amanda so her Dad rather grudgingly decided last October that she needed to move back here with me in order to get a little peace in the new homestead.
I guess you could say that things have gone full circle at this point – I’m back to being a single parent and still working in emergency dispatch though now as an emergency medical dispatcher with American Ambulance in Norwich. To say that things have changed in the past 15 years since I was last raising a child on my own would be an understatement! No longer do I have the energy, eternal optimism, or resiliency of youth but rather the aches and pains of middle age, the worries of ever being able to retire, and the awful feeling of deja-vu all over again! Add on the complexities of raising a teenager in this day and age and well … it keeps me on my toes!
I hope you’ll join me on my journeys – through the laughs & the frustrations, the tears & the smiles, and everything else that goes along with juggling work and home while trying to maintain at least a small bit of sanity on the side! I welcome your stories and your comments (though bear in mind, I have the power of veto when it comes to posting your comments or not so please be nice!).
On that note – let the journey begin! As soon as I rest up for a minute or two …